Sunday, November 29, 2009

Life is about how we live it and not about how long we live -Part 1

Inspired by a couple of books I read last week, I am writing this blog.
Gone are those days, where my blogs extensively contained issues that were closely related to my experiences and emotions. In fact the number of blogs that I wrote were more than the inputs I obtained from different sources. May be this behavior was the outcome of my ego. After having experienced a few setbacks and challenges, I decided to find out what exactly was missing. I resorted to reading. Books have not only been a great source of inspiration but also provided me solace through my valleys. I was amazed by the way things turned up the moment I started practicing a few exercises suggested by the authors.
Every man encounters a number of situations. Some of them gives him happiness and some make him sad and frustrated. The situations may be related to his work or his personal life. Most of the time man blames his circumstances for dearth of happiness and joy. Every one commits mistakes and blunders. It is totally fine to have committed them because that his how he could react to the situation with the awareness and information he possessed. Life is all about how he wishes to pursue his life ahead from the experiences he has had in the past.Now let us focus on the uncomfortable circumstance prevailing over us. Instead of blaming it on some one, lets take a moment and see how we could make the situation amiable for us to learn and find a new and a totally different route to glory. By considering what the truth of the situation is and determining the value the situation could add to our lives. For example, we are waiting for some thing to happen to us and its taking a long time for things to fall into place. First thing we do is resort to the calculative, logical personality, which suggests to us that things should not take this long, why is it happening to me and I dont deserve this. This exactly what I did first and I freaked out. After which, I realized everything around me went out of my control the moment I freaked out and for many things to fall into place it was already late. But then you know, may be for those things that did not fall into place, it had a reason. For all that I know, the situation is prevailing over my life just because there is something I lack and I have to develop that missing link. I realized, I lack patience and I had started depending emotionally on my close family, which I feel is not a virtue of a strong and a composed man. I felt I should make best use of the situation to learn to be a lil patient and make myself peaceful even during these valleys. This starts happening the moment you start concentrating on what I can do for others? for a change the mind stops thinking of you alone. That is when you lose all your ego and start looking at the world around you with a different perspective. Its been a week since I started practicing this and it works. I am much more peaceful than what I was a week ago. Probably this is something that I have to experience while climbing a high peak. This experience will also be useful when you reach the next valley. The more the experiences, the easier it becomes for us to get out of our valleys faster and manage our peaks better.

In case some one is interested this is inspired by a book called ' Peaks and Valleys' by Spencer Johnson

4 comments:

Unknown said...

Dawg!! Ivalo profound postaaa... nways gud 2 see that ur gyaan is improvin towards a better a character n future... As ur periyappa always says, "There r no problems. Only issues" :)

nishant said...

All that I am interested in is see how I can be useful to others, many of us know all this but we do not take advantage of our awareness....we all become a part of the wild goose chase...

viswajith.k.n said...

well put. but in reference to your comment can I ask on what the wild goose chase is?

nishant said...

Life and the materialistic value it adds to us....